Learn to heal without venting to everyone.
Life just happens! We should all count our blessings each and every day that we are present and alive for it to continuously happen, but sometimes the “happenings” can take a toll on us both mentally and emotionally. During these trying times, the first response is usually to pick up the phone and VENT!
Even though these venting sessions are meant to be therapeutic and be a great way to release, it is better to learn to heal without venting to everyone! Here’s why,
Loose Lips Sinks Ships.
If you are fortunate in life to have tried and true friends or have specific family members that take in your personal issues and can keep your venting sessions between just you two, that is truly amazing! However, one of life’s hardest lessons to learn is that everyone around you does not always have the best intentions. Some people will use your pain merely for conversation with others, for various reasons.
Most times this lesson is learned from hearing about your own personal issues from people that you didn’t tell personally, and boom, now in addition to going through the situation, you have at that point experienced why you should not vent to everyone!
Temporary Emotions.
Most times, you go through situations at work or experience a situation within romantic relationships, family, or friendships. These relationship-based situations are always more emotional than anything and what you feel at the moment that it happened will be something totally different down the line.
Venting to others can sometimes change the perception of a mutual person. Once you have cooled off and made amends with your romantic partner, friend, or family member, the person that you’ve vented to may not see the situation or person the same, even though you have moved on mentally.
Just imagine if this were a romantic or friendship relationship, you moved on from the initial situation, and you’re wanting to physically introduce this person of whom you’ve vented about to the people you vented to. That would probably be pretty awkward, right?!
Self Reliance.
When life does happen, you are the one that will have to deal with and overcome the situation. Venting can be a release, but as the saying goes, “You are the captain of your ship”. After those venting sessions are over, you will need to individually do the internal work to heal.
Emotional Growth.
When faced with a situation, it is easy to continually complain and sulk which keeps you stuck in an emotionally toxic self-destructing cycle. To heal and emotionally grow, it’s so important to be able to work through your emotions, take what is needed from lessons, and mentally move on.
